The Ripple Effect

It is truly amazing to me to see how sharing our true essence “LOVE” spirals out in the Universe as a ripple effect. I believe LOVE is not something we get from the outside, but something we find from within. … Continue reading

Everything is energy!

Everything is energy!

In Honor of Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. Yet, many people have a hard time with this day of romance.  Let’s explore what the “true course of love” is.

When we are born, the role of our parents, or caregivers, is to support us as children, which includes setting clear boundaries and giving us unconditional love. This energy from the parent flows downward to the child.

The child’s role toward their parents (caregivers) is to respect and appreciate them.  This is an upward flow of energy to the parents.

Let’s explore where this “true course of love ” goes wrong.

In certain occurrences, parents expect their child, or children, to fulfill their own needs. They want the child to show appreciation for all they do for them as parents.  This neediness, perhaps expressed unconsciously, toward the child is filling any holes the parent might have. These holes come from a place of what we may refer to as, “not enoughness,” which gets passed down from past generations and creates a reverse order of the “true course of love.”

The child, which now must direct energy upward toward the parent, gets stuck in a dysfunctional pattern in the passing of energy.  Often, this reverse order gets carried into their current relationships.  In love relationships, they may expect their partner to meet their needs, or in other words, fill their “not enoughness” holes.  These relationships create an expected appreciation from the partner, not on a “being level,” but a “doing level.”

Most of all want to be seen on the deepest level of our soul.  We seek someone who will recognize our true essence that can often be missed by our parents.  We want our loved ones to recognize our “beingness,” or more simply, to just love us with no agenda, seeking nothing in return, and to be recognized for our true selves under our mask of the ego.

We build this “ego mask” to accommodate a pull of energy, which we take from our parents early on in our childhood, in an effort to seek attention, or love from them.  This is one reason why we might stay in a relationship that is not healthy for us.

I challenge us on this Valentine’s Day, to be aware of what the “true course of love” is by sharing your love with others, in a way that recognizes their “beingness”. This new awareness can help stop the dysfunctional patterns that have been passed down throughout family histories. What could be a better gift to give to your loved ones?

What Does It Mean To “Be In The Moment?”

What does it mean to be “in the moment”? We hear that phrase from many contemporary and historical spiritual leaders in their books, speeches and on their social media sites.  What exactly are they referring to when they tell you to, “be here now,” and what is the big deal?  Aren’t we all living in the moment as we are carrying on throughout our day?

The concept of living in the moment is an important one for every individual; thus, it should be a big deal to you as well.  And no, most of us are not living in the moment on a daily basis. 

First, realizing that most humans around the planet are continually “thinking,” yet, these thoughts tend to be based on the past or future and have nothing, or little to do with the present moment.  We exist on a planet surrounded by people walking around, cut off energetically from the necks up; the music group “Talking Heads” nailed it!  We are addicted to our thoughts, or our “thinking” habits, that are stored in our memory banks, re-playing over and over again.  However, if we begin to notice that most of our thoughts are about something not currently happening, we can learn to let go of our old memories; therefore, allowing our past recollections to NOT color our perception of the present.

So, I now will join the many others who teach and preach “Being in the Now.”  What I mean is simply, living our lives in the moment instead of from our past perceptions.  We start by bringing our attention to the moment, down from our heads into our bodies.  It is not some trick exercise you need to study for years, and you do not need to have special healing powers.  However, because the process is new to us, it may feel that way in the beginning.  Although, a blog post is not an ideal format for walking you through this technique, I will lay out steps, which if practiced, can lead you to a new state of mind.

First, bring your attention to your breathing.  Just as in your daily yoga routine, inhale and exhale. 

Without breaking your concentration, bring your attention down into your bodies, and if thoughts show up (and they will) notice them, but don’t identify with them.  They are just thoughts, and you don’t need to engage with them.

Focus on your breathing, and simultaneously focus your attention into your body. 

Congratulations, you are BEing in the moment. 

This technique can change our “thinking” habits.  But, it takes a strong willingness to practice, and take 100% responsibility for ALL interactions. Energy follows intention.