The Ripple Effect

It is truly amazing to me to see how sharing our true essence “LOVE” spirals out in the Universe as a ripple effect. I believe LOVE is not something we get from the outside, but something we find from within. … Continue reading

Practicing The Art of Being In The Moment



Practicing Being in the Moment on a Beach in Kauai


As I sit on an amazing sand beach located on the island of Kauai, surrounded by green and lush with mountain silhouettes in the background, and a blue ocean stretching far as the eye can see in the foreground, I think,  “can I be in the moment and turn off my mind?”

Thoughts filer through, such as, “I should have continued to work out,”  “if only my stomach was flatter, like that girls,” “if only the sun would come out to stay, I came all this way and it has rained for 5 days,” and “did I remember to blow out the candle in the bathroom?”  Finally, I stop and look around.  I laugh at myself and realize I was just gone for a moment in time, lost in my thoughts.  “STOP identifying with your thoughts Wendy,” I tell myself, as I laugh again….Do my thoughts, I wonder, ever give up? 

The cosmic joke is to love what is, no matter what it is.  Can I love my thoughts and not identify with them?  I come back to the moment over and over again, the thoughts filters through my brain continually and I repeatedly stop and notice them, but while trying not to identify with them, despite whether they are good, bad or indifferent thoughts.

This dis-identification from our thoughts is like practicing a sport.  After a while you automatically respond and move without having to think about the movement anymore.  As neuroscientist, David Eagleman, describes in his book, Incognito, “conscious parts of the brain train other parts of the neural machinery, establishing the goals and allocating the resources.”  Eagleman uses the example of Wimbledon tennis players, who “are rapid, efficient machines that play tennis shockingly well.  They can track a ball traveling ninety miles per hour, move toward it rapidly, and orient a small surface to intersect its trajectory.”  As he notes, these professional athletes do most of this without consciousness. 

Laughing at yourself is an important part of dis-identifying; otherwise you would feel emotion attached to the thoughts that are filtering through your brain.  If I would have identified with my thoughts while sitting on the beach, I would have felt disappointment, sadness, anger and worriment.  Like professional athletes, you too can train your brain.  Wow! Putting my body though all that emotion over thoughts that I don’t have to identify with seems rather silly, especially while sitting on a beach (rainy or not) in Kauai!  Aloha!



Eagleman, David (2011).  Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain. New York, New York.

What Does It Mean To “Be In The Moment?”

What does it mean to be “in the moment”? We hear that phrase from many contemporary and historical spiritual leaders in their books, speeches and on their social media sites.  What exactly are they referring to when they tell you to, “be here now,” and what is the big deal?  Aren’t we all living in the moment as we are carrying on throughout our day?

The concept of living in the moment is an important one for every individual; thus, it should be a big deal to you as well.  And no, most of us are not living in the moment on a daily basis. 

First, realizing that most humans around the planet are continually “thinking,” yet, these thoughts tend to be based on the past or future and have nothing, or little to do with the present moment.  We exist on a planet surrounded by people walking around, cut off energetically from the necks up; the music group “Talking Heads” nailed it!  We are addicted to our thoughts, or our “thinking” habits, that are stored in our memory banks, re-playing over and over again.  However, if we begin to notice that most of our thoughts are about something not currently happening, we can learn to let go of our old memories; therefore, allowing our past recollections to NOT color our perception of the present.

So, I now will join the many others who teach and preach “Being in the Now.”  What I mean is simply, living our lives in the moment instead of from our past perceptions.  We start by bringing our attention to the moment, down from our heads into our bodies.  It is not some trick exercise you need to study for years, and you do not need to have special healing powers.  However, because the process is new to us, it may feel that way in the beginning.  Although, a blog post is not an ideal format for walking you through this technique, I will lay out steps, which if practiced, can lead you to a new state of mind.

First, bring your attention to your breathing.  Just as in your daily yoga routine, inhale and exhale. 

Without breaking your concentration, bring your attention down into your bodies, and if thoughts show up (and they will) notice them, but don’t identify with them.  They are just thoughts, and you don’t need to engage with them.

Focus on your breathing, and simultaneously focus your attention into your body. 

Congratulations, you are BEing in the moment. 

This technique can change our “thinking” habits.  But, it takes a strong willingness to practice, and take 100% responsibility for ALL interactions. Energy follows intention.