Freeing Yourself From ‘The Judge’

Workshop Event on Freeing Yourself From ‘The Judge’ – Facebook page – Seeds of Light Healing @Seedsoflighthealingarts Link to Facebook Judge Event Page One of the biggest obstacles to peace is the constant voice, or the ‘judge’ in our heads. … Continue reading

Healing Relationships

“The biggest disease today is…..The feeling of being unwanted.” Mother Teresa, 1971 If we are fortunate enough to have real attunement NOW in our lives, then we have a chance to develop new synaptic brain patterns. These new patterns that … Continue reading

Holy Love

Holy Love

” Holy Love is the heart of existence, and to really experience the whole of existence as heart necessitates having nothing held back in your own heart. ” Facets of Unity – A.H. Almaas

Love is a state of Being!

Love is a state of Being!

My Bucket List

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Sitting outside today on the island of Kauai, I had one of those “first moments,” where I knew that what I was experiencing had never happened to me before.   Enjoying the 10 minutes of sunshine that decided to peek out from the amongst the clouds, I sat outside after a long morning of flash flood warnings.  While closing my eyes, I visualized the vitamin D soaking into my skin.  My thoughts were interrupted by soft raindrops, yet, the sun stayed out in full force.  It was so refreshing and amazing to feel the rain while in the nice warm sunshine.  It was as if a blessing just fell down from the skies.

It instantly got me thinking about the bucket list of Jamie Sullivan, played by Mandy Moore, in the emotional movie, “A Walk to Remember.”  If you’re unfamiliar with the plot, Jamie creates a bucket list of experiences she hopes to accomplish before she passes away from leukemia.  For example, one of Jamie’s wishes is to be in two places at once.  

So, as my thoughts flowed, I started to make a mental bucket list of my own; however, what you will not find on my bucket list is the conventional, “step foot in every country,” or “go bungee jumping.”  Instead, I focus on deeper changes that will help me grow as a person.  Only then will I be more willing to jump off a bridge into the abyss.  Or not.

  1. Stop identifying with my old story and thoughts
  2. Love what is in each moment
  3. Surrender to trusting the Universe fully
  4. Continually know inner peace & share with others
  5. Break the dysfunctional patterns so my grandchildren can have a different experience of feeling attuned – a secure attachment
  6. Unconditionally love my children/husband/everyone
  7. Leave my judge behind once and for all!
  8. Travel and explore different cultures around the world
  9. Be real – so at my funeral when people are sharing stories about me, my children can recognize and feel nourished by these stories, and not say, “who in the world are they talking about?”

What would be on your bucket list?  Share – I would love to hear your ideas! Aloha!

 

In Honor of Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. Yet, many people have a hard time with this day of romance.  Let’s explore what the “true course of love” is.

When we are born, the role of our parents, or caregivers, is to support us as children, which includes setting clear boundaries and giving us unconditional love. This energy from the parent flows downward to the child.

The child’s role toward their parents (caregivers) is to respect and appreciate them.  This is an upward flow of energy to the parents.

Let’s explore where this “true course of love ” goes wrong.

In certain occurrences, parents expect their child, or children, to fulfill their own needs. They want the child to show appreciation for all they do for them as parents.  This neediness, perhaps expressed unconsciously, toward the child is filling any holes the parent might have. These holes come from a place of what we may refer to as, “not enoughness,” which gets passed down from past generations and creates a reverse order of the “true course of love.”

The child, which now must direct energy upward toward the parent, gets stuck in a dysfunctional pattern in the passing of energy.  Often, this reverse order gets carried into their current relationships.  In love relationships, they may expect their partner to meet their needs, or in other words, fill their “not enoughness” holes.  These relationships create an expected appreciation from the partner, not on a “being level,” but a “doing level.”

Most of all want to be seen on the deepest level of our soul.  We seek someone who will recognize our true essence that can often be missed by our parents.  We want our loved ones to recognize our “beingness,” or more simply, to just love us with no agenda, seeking nothing in return, and to be recognized for our true selves under our mask of the ego.

We build this “ego mask” to accommodate a pull of energy, which we take from our parents early on in our childhood, in an effort to seek attention, or love from them.  This is one reason why we might stay in a relationship that is not healthy for us.

I challenge us on this Valentine’s Day, to be aware of what the “true course of love” is by sharing your love with others, in a way that recognizes their “beingness”. This new awareness can help stop the dysfunctional patterns that have been passed down throughout family histories. What could be a better gift to give to your loved ones?